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Quotes from New Earth: On Forgiveness, Resentment & Grievances

December 18th, 2014 Leave a comment Go to comments

Below you find quotes extracted from Tolle’s book New Earth concerning the topics of: Resentment, grievances and forgiveness ..  Other concepts mentioned below include: The negativeness of indignation, being offended, complaining, bitterness, the ego, labeling, unconsciousness, finding faults, others, anger, hurt, enemies, superiority, upset, painbodies … Followed by how to Forgive.


Concepts and lines have been extracted, rearranged, and important words highlighted.  Some things were rephrased, others were pasted “as is” .. When things are pasted un-modified, “as is”, they will not have quotation marks.  I take “no” credit for any of this, these are all Tolle’s concepts.



Resentment is the emotion that goes with:
1- complaining and
2- the mental labeling of people
These add energy into and feed the ego.


Resentment may also be accompanied by stronger emotions such as:
1- anger or
2- some other form of upset.
This charges the resentment energetically more.

Resentment means:
To feel bitter, indignant, aggrieved, or offended.


You might resent:
Labels you apply to other people, such as other people’s greed, dishonesty, lack of integrity, or actions such as: what they are doing, did, did not do, said, have not said.



Action can follow resentmentor any upset.  It fuels the upset. This all, feeds the ego.


The ego loves resentment. Instead of overlooking unconsciousness in others, you make it in to their identity. Who is doing that? The unconsciousness in you, the ego. Acting, or ReActing on resentment and upset by complaining, labeling, or any other action feeds the ego more. The ego goes to lengths to feed itself.

The ego feeds itself by labeling others, finding faults. By the mere act of labeling or finding faults you assume a superiority, correctness over, and otherness.



Faults: ”Sometimes the “fault” that you perceive in another isn’t even there. It is a total misinterpretation, a projection by a mind conditioned to see enemies and to make itself right or superior. At other times, the fault may be theirs, but by focusing on it, sometimes to the exclusion of everything else, you amplify it. And what you react to in another, you strengthen in yourself.”


“There are many people who are always waiting for the next thing to react against, to feel annoyed or disturbed about – and it never takes long before they find it. “

“They are addicted to upset and anger as others are to a drug. Through reacting against this or that they assert and strengthen their feeling of self.”

“This is an outrage,” they say. “How dare you…” “ I resent this.”



A Grievance is:
- A longstanding resentment.
- A strong negative emotion connected to an event in the past**
- The baggage of old thoughts and emotion.


Collective grievances: can survive for centuries in the psyche of a nation or tribe.


** This past event is being kept alive by:
1-compulsive thinking,
2- by retelling the story in the head or out loud of “what someone did to me” or “what someone did to us.”


You carry a grievance  when you are in a “permanent state of “against””.  <-   why grievances constitute a significant part of many people’s ego.



grievance will contaminate your life:
- As you carry, think, feel your grievance -> its negative emotional energy will distort your perception of an event that is happening in the Present / Now and even influence the way in which you speak or act.
- “One strong grievance is enough to contaminate large areas of your life and keep you in the grip of the ego.”



grievance acts on:
1- Thought  ( thoughts that keep it alive)
2- Emotion (the body’s response to those thoughts)



Your story (ego) consists of:
1- mental memory
2- emotional memory
3- These mental and emotional memories are being revived continuously by feeding them with thoughts.


most people carry a large amount of unnecessary baggage, both mental and emotional, throughout their lives. They limit themselves through grievances, regret, hostility, guilt. Their emotional thinking has become their self, and so they hang on to the old emotion because it strengthens their identity.



Because of the human tendency to perpetuate old emotion, almost everyone carries in his or her energy filed an accumulation of old emotional pain, which I call “the painbody.”


Stop adding to the painbody:
- By breaking the habit of accumulating and perpetuating old emotions.
- Dissipate present and past excess energy.
- Don’t dwell in the past  (regardless of whether something happened yesterday or thirty years ago.)


We can learn not to keep situations or events alive in our minds, but to return our attention continuously to the pristine,
timeless present moment rather than be caught up in mental moviemaking. Our very Presence then becomes our identity, rather than our thoughts and emotions.

Nothing ever happened in the past that can prevent you from being present now; and if the past cannot prevent you from being present now, what power does it have?



The ego loves to complain and feel resentful not only abut other people but also about situations. What you can do to a person, you can also do to a situation: make it into an enemy. The implication is always: This should not be happening; I don’t want to be here; I don’t want to be doing this; I’m being treated unfairly. And the egos greatest enemy of all is, of course, the present moment, which is to say, life itself.






Don’t try to let go of the grievance. Trying to let go, to forgive, does not work.


Forgiveness happens naturally when you see that it has no purpose other than to strengthen a false sense of self, to keep the ego in place.     The seeing is freeing.


Jesus’ teaching to “Forgive your enemies” is essentially about the undoing of one of the main egoic structures in the human mind.


The past has no power to stop you from being present now. Only your grievance about the past can do that.



Your greatest protection, is being conscious.

Somebody becomes an enemy if you personalize the unconsciousness that is the ego.

Non reaction is not weakness but strength.

Another word for nonreaction is forgiveness.

To forgive is to overlook, or rather to look through.

You look through the ego to the sanity that is in every human being as his or her essence.




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